“By far one of the best all-around adoption books I have ever read. I can feel the real-life, in the trenches experience of the author come through with deep wisdom and understanding. If there were an adoption parenting road map for establishing love and relationship in a home this is it. Please read and reread. Books at this level of true applicability and parenting guidance are rare.”

Bryan Post, Author and Internationally recognised specialist in the treatment of emotional and behavioural disturbance in adults, children and families.


"This is an essential book to prepare and accompany adoptive families and the professionals that support them for both pre and post adoption. The book offers down to earth approach to managing the inevitable challenges and often trying situations that impact adoptive families. It is a well thought, well written and comprehensive 'adoption survival guide'. A highly recommended read."

Inbar Sagiv, Integrative Child Psychotherapist (MA) and Social Worker (BA)


“This is the most honest, sensitive and hands-on practical book I have ever read on how to successfully navigate the emotional challenges of adopting a child.  This is not advice based on theory, it is an experiential account of what works.  Not just in terms of preparation, but right through the long, long period of ups and downs, angst, fear, frustration, tears, love and adjustment to the dawning of a happy family unit.  Sophie Ashton handles raw emotional and psychological issues involving the dynamics of the whole family head on.  Her focus on building self-esteem and nurturing through the senses to develop the brain are crucial.  Do not read ‘The Secrets of Successful Adoptive Parenting’ if you want a Disney perspective, this is a real book that, I believe, will become a reference book for many people wanting to adopt or have adopted a child.”

Dr Lynda Shaw, Cognitive Neuroscientist, Fellow of the Royal Society of Medicine


“This is a must-have guide of tried and tested success strategies that adoptive parents can continually refer to when experiencing overwhelming challenges and emotions.  This book offers practical support and structure for facing inevitable (but often taboo) difficulties, helping adoptive parents to integrate their adoptive child in crucial aspects of development such as self-esteem and attachment.  The real-life examples reassured me that, through effective communication and self-care, I could manage and face any difficulty.  I was also reassured that my own responses to our adopted child were natural and encouraged to carry on in a well informed and positive way.  This book is engaging, inspiring and relevant.”

Adoptive Mother, Buckinghamshire


“Sophie has managed to do something unique: to simultaneously show the realities of adopting a child, and also give us lots of good ideas on how to make this happen successfully.  As a potential gay adopter, I found the suggested games and activities very inspiring.  Sophie obviously has lots of hands-on experience in this area, and does not approach the topic from a purely theoretical angle.  This makes her book feel human, and the suggestions immediately applicable.  Potential adoptive parents, as well as those for-ever parents who need some practical advice, would really benefit from reading this book.”

Mariano Tufro, Potential Adoptive Parent


“I read this book whilst going through the adoption process myself, and it was the only one of many I read that gave practical solutions to real-life problem situations we might encounter with any adopted child.  It is also the most candid about the feelings of frustration and bewilderment you may feel when dealing with your adopted child. The fact that it is written by somebody speaking from experience adds credibility to the advice being given.


This book should serve as a source of inspiration and hope for those who are really struggling with their child and is proof that you can work through any difficulties and have your own happy ending. The emotional side of things is coupled with tried and tested methods for coping as adoptive parents, whilst also dealing with difficult children.


I highly recommend it to anybody either going through the process or who has adopted already and is struggling with challenging situations.” 

Lal Lister – Potential Adoptive Parent